Many of my clients enter therapy with deep-seated, unresolved grief and yet are unaware of this grief. What they know is that they are depressed, can’t seem to get out of “stuck”, feel alone and isolated, and basically feel like giving up. What they are experiencing is termed disenfranchised grief. … [Read more...]
Archives for May 2014
Keeping Your Marriage Strong and Healthy
As with flowers and gardens, marriage requires proper tending. Without a commitment of time, regular watering, fertilizing, and weeding, our flowers and vegetables soon begin to wilt and die. When marriages are neglected, they do the same. Too often we give work our best and last burst of energy, … [Read more...]
Relationships: A Path Toward Change
Relationship challenges and tensions are the fuel for growth… OUR growth. If we determine to learn something in every relationship, it diffuses any struggle or battle because the struggles and tensions provide us with answers into ourselves. If we will let it be so, relationships … [Read more...]
Recovery: A Miracle of God
So many people in our world struggle in pain, aimlessly repeating the same hurtful behaviors, yet expecting different results. Perhaps that’s where you find yourself. I’ve been there, too, and my friend, there is freedom for you and there are answers! Recovery: It’s A Start Alcoholics … [Read more...]
Recovery & Healing
HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU'VE RECOVERED OR ARE ON YOUR WAY TO HEALING? Anytime you do not feel anger, blame, self-pity, bitterness, or resentment, then you are experiencing recovery. If you think of your former spouse, boss, friend, etc., less often than you used to, this is a sign of recovery. If … [Read more...]
Optimal Health
While working with clients to create a treatment plan, I always urge them to include better choices for nutrition and the implementation of an exercise program. Because our physical health has direct correlation with mental health, this is a vital aspect of treatment. It is difficult to work … [Read more...]
Noxious People
I recently did a study of Joseph Shannon, Ph.D.’s work on Noxious People. He defines noxious people as problematic relationships that can cause us many problems, anxiety and chaos. He also calls them extremely ‘high conflict people’ and ‘toxic people’. Here is a list of some of the … [Read more...]
Finding Meaning
I am reading once again "Man's Search For Meaning" by Viktor Frankl. This is the 20th time I have read the book. It is a classic that should be read every year, but I do miss a year now and then. I wore out my first book with 19 X's indicating 19 readings, so I just got my latest copy. … [Read more...]